This has been said over and over again. Judging people before even getting to know them. That really get’s to me, but you know on that same note, I think in some way or another we all do it, instinctively when we meet someone, we haven’t got to know them or anything, but right away we are judging if we like this person or not! Why do we do this? I don’t know, but I’m sure there are plenty of explanations out there as to why.
I was watching Big Brother Celebrity this season, I just love those reality TV shows, not all of them, but most I do, it’s the drama that makes me laugh to be quite honest. Well anyway the celebrities were being introduced one by one, the second celebrity to go in was Andrew Stone, my first impression is, he’s full of himself, and thinks he can get all the girls, and I thought he probably can.
He’s a good looking guy, and had an adorable smile. The photos they were plastering of him all over the huge screens gave an all too different impression of who he was, then when he came walking in. He didn’t look like the photos they had of him. And this is me judging him lol. His hair was cut short on one side, much like this photo here, and he just bounced around like a cute little drag queen, sorry but that was my impression (hence judging). So I immediately thought, wow this guy must be gay, that’s cool!! I really did think that was very cool too.
Well after about a week or two of seeing him on the show, I thought wow he is definitely gay, but he kept on insisting he wasn’t. Now I don’t know if he is or not. I don’t know this guy, but the guy I seen in the show was nothing like what I expected to see from the photos they were showing on the first day. Was I disappointed? Not really, sort of? Lol. At first he seemed very cool, and laid back, and fun, always smiling. But then things started to change, he started to change, and really for no reason people just stopped liking him. I don’t know if it was because they felt he was gay, but kept insisting he wasn’t I really don’t know. And truthfully it’s no ones damn business!
My whole point of this is, we all judge, even if we don’t want to, we are all being judged. I am being judged by what I write! It’s just a fact, but some people go over the top with it, and that is when it gets on my nerves. Okay so we do some pre-judging, but give a person a chance, really get to know then before you toss a stone!
I feel this was more of a rant? Na, I had been thinking about people thinking they know you but they really don’t, because they never gave you the chance. I was once called ‘weird’ and you know I have been called all kinds of names, by all kinds of people hehe, but why did this bother me? Maybe because the person pretended to be my friend, I think that is why this affected me the most. Eventually that memory will fade, I can only hope so. So I am weird, in a good way hehe.
It seems we (human beings) have a need to pigeon-hole people so we know how to behave around them; thus, we make snap judgments based on looks. And of course that’s not the right thing to do. But I think that’s less damaging than being too rigid to change those judgments as we get to know people. For example, some see dark skin and nothing else counts. Others may see a gay demeanor and need to know nothing else. To me, that’s even more dangerous than judging a book by the cover.